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September 19, 2008 | 11:38am
Mood: good lord
Music: Quest Pistols - Я устал

Right after I wrote my last entry and headed off to Public Speaking, I ran into Kendal. Kendal was one of the first friends I made at Truman. He lived next door to me freshman year and we were some of the only people in our hall who didn't drink or go to church. Of course, that's because he's my complete opposite - very conservative, very Mormon - but we got along great. After freshman year we haven't really hung out much, but we always stop and chat when we run into one another. We are going to hang out sometime this year, which should be interesting. We'll have to go on a walk for old time's sake.

He's a great guy, and I'm incredibly grateful that I had someone like him my freshman year. I was so depressed and lonely and mentally unstable that I don't know what would have happened if I hadn't become friends with him. (And Amanda, but that's another entry.)

He's getting married in January. How weird is that? I remember when he complained about never having a girlfriend and how girls always saw him as a friend and not as anything more. I always complained about the same thing, although the sentiment behind it was not necessarily the same. Jesus. When the hell did we grow up?

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from: mr_m0rphine
date: September 19, 2008 05:40pm (UTC)
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i think it's all about trying to withdraw one's complexes. he tried to gain the missed experience by getting married, or something of that kind.. and then they simply split up but then oh - "when i was married.." and "my ex-wife used to.." and so on - so very sophisticated they get, lol.

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from: aodh
date: September 19, 2008 06:48pm (UTC)
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you know, you could very well be right... I think he did kind of rush into it... but I don't think he'll be getting divorced any time soon; it's against the rules of his religion (& his fiancee's religion). oh well... hopefully things will work out for him in the future.

I'm worried that I'll do something similar - that I'll try to make up for lost time with the first serious relationship I enter - but, well, first I need to be IN a relationship to know how I'll act...

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from: mr_m0rphine
date: September 19, 2008 07:29pm (UTC)
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well, i must say i'm not good at building relationships too. actually, all my so-called relationships ended during the first several weeks, haha. the reason was that i was somewhat too serious about that. i mean, i see no sense in "going out" together if it is already meant that your relationships with him would end more or less soon - the latter is very common among young people, it is unconscious. i'm old-fashioned, i suppose. lol.
don't be afraid of serious relationships - you are not going to sign the wedding document, are you? so, no worries ^^
i really do not see the necessity of getting married. so soon at least.

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from: aodh
date: September 21, 2008 07:37am (UTC)
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i haven't even been in a relationship before - due primarily to my own efforts. I've certainly had the opportunity (although, with one exception, not with a guy, unfortunately), but I've always pushed them away before anything ever happened. One of my (possibly unrealistic) expections for whenever I enter a relationship is that it be long-term, not just some casual thing. With where I am in life - both metaphorically and physically - a relationship just wouldn't work unless it's with a guy who wouldn't mind me heading off to Russia in a year, haha. Of course, I think this is probably just due to my own fear of relationships, but... perhaps I am over-analyzing myself? Hahaha.

But yeah, I absolutely do not think that getting married at our age is a good idea. There's so much more to see and to experience in life - marriage would, effectively, put a stop to that. (Although I do have one friend who was married when she was 18 - and she's currently 23 and still married. Very slim odds of that happening!) Oh well. Things will work out one way or another. :)

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from: mr_m0rphine
date: September 19, 2008 07:32pm (UTC)
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btw i added you there on diary.
you are certainly to have plenties of readers there!

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from: aodh
date: September 21, 2008 07:45am (UTC)
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i've added you back... haha, based on the number of comments on my first entry, I think you just might be right :)

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