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February 13, 2012 | 09:37pm
Mood: anxious

Things to do before I leave on Friday, in no particular order:
- register to vote
- finish taxes (I started them yesterday, the website crashed, will do them again)
- get a haircut
- pack
- back-up files on my external hard drive
- charge iPod on my old laptop (read: sync new music)
- study, study, study (unit 6: in its entirety)

I'm biting my fingernails right now because I'm so anxious. "What are you anxious about, Adam? Traveling around the world? Your new job? Meeting new people?" you may be wondering. Well, my good sir and/or madam, the answer is, "I am getting my hair cut tomorrow." I dread this, you guys, in every country, and in every language. When I get the idea of cutting my hair in my head I get anxious and have trouble sleeping at night. This is because I'm insane. But yeah, my nails are shrinking in length as we speak.

Tomorrow is Valentine's Day. It's sad: the first V-day I'm in a relationship (however long-distance it is right now) and we're on opposite sides of the world. Fortunately Korea considers Valentine's Day to be the day when girls give guys presents. March 14th is White Day: when guys give girls presents. Or, well, guys give guys presents. Whatever. Also, it's been almost exactly one year to the day since Minkyu and I first started talking on Kakaotalk, although we didn't meet until some time later.

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LadyEquinox

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from: ladyequinox
date: February 14, 2012 08:07am (UTC)
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I'm pretty sure March 14th is White Day.

~Nox

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Adam

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from: aodh
date: February 14, 2012 01:58pm (UTC)
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Shit, you're right. Mixed up my colors.

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antigone_k

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from: antigone_k
date: February 16, 2012 09:54pm (UTC)
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I dread getting my hair cut, too. I hate all the small talk and then they always get mad at me for not letting them do something girly and trendy and sometimes they try to do it anyways.

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Adam

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from: aodh
date: February 17, 2012 02:39am (UTC)
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I guess with guys it's different-- they never try to something trendy with me. Strange, my hairstylists are always pretty much silent. Then again, I'm not very good at small talk- I answer with short, quick answers, and people always get the idea that I don't want to talk (even when I don't care one way or another). Did that make sense? ugh. I think I dread getting my hair cut so much because it's something that's out of my hands-- I can't control what's going to happen to my hair if someone else is cutting it, you know?

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antigone_k

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from: antigone_k
date: February 17, 2012 02:49am (UTC)
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Yeah, I think it is different. There's this notion as a woman, I'm "supposed" to want my hair to have the latest trends and if I don't wear it that way, I just must not know how.

I think there's a similar assumption in terms of talking--that as a woman, I can't just want my hair cut, I must want that female bonding experience. People, especially women, get nervous if I'm unresponsive or am not saying a lot and then try double their efforts in the hopes of getting me to interact. The forced small talk is the biggest reason why I often flake out on hair appointments. (Although I may have to bite the bullet soon, as my hair is getting so long that if I don't spend a lot of time on it every day it starts to dred.)

My favorite place was a bar in Detroit that had Thursday night haircuts. It was always a whole lot of indie guys and me. She was great--no pressure for conversation, she basically did it as I asked and I got to drink at the same time.

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Adam

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from: aodh
date: February 17, 2012 03:39am (UTC)
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That's a good point. You would probably never want to get a haircut in Korea: my girl friends tell me that the stylists listen to what they want done and do the complete opposite. I've learned, after some very bad cuts, to stay until I get what I want. I've gotten to the point where I just don't care if it's not the "right" thing to do: if I have trouble looking at myself in the mirror, I simply can't keep that cut.

I know it may not be up your alley, but have you just tried not making hair appointments? I know places like SuperCuts aren't exactly great but they take walk-ins and I think there may be less stress involved. I think I must give off a weird vibe to people-- in a group I can be very outgoing, but if I'm alone, or walking down the street, I've been told I look "angry" or "mean." Virtually every foreigner I know in Korea has been the recipient of a "You're handsome!" or "So beautiful!"-- except me. I think it's because of the vibe I give off... I wish I knew how to replicate it.

That sounds like an absolutely amazing bar, although it doesn't necessarily sound legal, haha. If the haircuts weren't awful I'd do it in a second. There's a bar in Gwangju that does something similar, actually: you go in, buy a bottle of tequila or whatever, and get a tattoo. Heh.

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